Character-Building Weather

I have often wondered if there is a connection between the climate one grows up in and the character of the people who live in it.  There must be a reason that we often ascribe attributes to groups of people – the hardiness of the north-easterners, the hospitality of southerners, or the grit of the…

Re-gifting

I have no objection to the concept of re-gifting.  I don’t mind receiving a gift that was first given to another.   And, from time to time, I re-gift to others.  I recently found a scarf, unopened and unused, that I thought was perfect for my friend so I gave it to her.    When I think…

My Virtual Reality

My son has a virtual reality system.  To play, you put on an eye mask that looks like overgrown ski goggles.  Then the headphones come next.  Your mind accepts what is not real which is one of the reasons that no one is allowed to play with this system unsupervised.   It is a wondrous thing…

Trust

John and I provide after school care for 2 of our granddaughters.  Their parents do not allow screen time beyond 20 minutes per day.  That’s one episode of a children’s program or 20 minutes playing a math game on my computer etc.  It is a great opportunity to develop the concept of trustworthiness.    When cajoled…

Stress

I like R. S. Lazarus’ way of defining stress “Stress arises when individuals perceive that they cannot adequately cope with the demands being made on them or with threats to their well-being.” I understand this to mean if I perceive that the situation is more demanding of me than my perceived level of energy to…

Fellowship

The asbestos tiles have all been removed and the air quality tests are completed.  John is working on rebuilding part of the wooden subfloor that is completely rotten.  I am using a wire brush to clean and scrape the bottom 4” of the walls and the joint between the walls and the concrete floor around…

Pacifiers?

When I was travelling with my babies I often resorted to using a pacifier (soother) when they started to squawk. It worked to calm them. Fast forward 40-some years. I take the commuter train and subway to meet my sister for a lecture and lunch. To be clear my sister does not lecture me -…

Holy, Wholly His

Last Sunday we joined a fellow KDS member and attended his church. It is a church much different from my own. I have worshipped in churches with plain white-washed walls and no ornamentation – this was not like that. I have attended churches with contemporary music blasting from bands – this was not like that.…

Other Words

Sometimes you hear words first-hand that stick with you and sometimes you have words given to you by others.  This is the case with words spoken by Avivah Wittenberg-Cox, a leading voice in change management and gender and business studies.  Her words were heard by member, Dianne Foglesong, which she shared with me by email. …

No Closed Doors

An open door policy is a wonderful thing, except when you would really like an actual door to close and remain so. We have 3 doors in the museum in Benedict House that offer a true challenge. One door will not close nor open – because there is only a hole where the handle should…

Toilet Training

Long ago at our summer cottage, my father posted a sign in the bathroom. It read “this toilet is out to get you” followed by a list of instructions on how and what to flush. Toilet design is better now – and yet in our IOKDS houses we do have some older style toilets that…

First World Problems

How to stop the bunnies from eating the lettuce in the garden before I do. How to sleep through thunderstorms. How to weed the garden and spread mulch without straining my back. How to decide what to have for lunch when the fridge is full. How to fit in a trip to the gym. How…